Mindful Masturbation for Men - More about Mindful Masturbation

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I've been absorbed in a powerful mindful session . . . using plenty of lube, breathing deeply, with candles lit in the cool pre-dawn, the central heat whirring softly, I've been doing it all: danceturbating which is stroking in motion while moving around; lying back with pelvis open & lifted, mesmerized before the full-length mirror; one foot up on a table reaching a hand around & under from behind to pull my balls. The ongoing tactile/erotic pleasuring of my erect penis & entire body lights up every cell: as if I'm the common ground of all my Phallic Brothers . . . as if I'm the arousal of all my male ancestors incarnate . . . as if I'm nothing but a gigantic, throbbing, ecstatic penis that the axis of the universe . . . everything revolves around me . . . pure stardust . . . !!!

This may sound rather extravagant to claim such altered states via masturbating--unless you got to similar places yourself. Quite a few men of my acquaintance DO go to such amazing places via masturbating mindfully.

Most definitely I encourage ALL male masturbation as a good, wholesome, healthy practice, so long as it does not reinforce guilt or shame. Still, though I'm not a snob & seek not to be judgmental, I still observe that perhaps 95% or more of the male masturbators I witness tend to be quite limited in what they experience.

How can I know what any man is experiencing inside??? I cannot absolutely. Yet we all share the same basic design & ancestry. This realm of male masturbatory practice is my life-long study. What I observe is that a vast majority of guys masturbate simply to get off, that is for the erotic pleasure, which is a wonderful thing--only it easily misses so much of what is possible.

Even many who focus on what is commonly called "edging" end up stuck in a certain range of sensations, striving NOT to come & never elaxing into the limitless flow of possibilities beyond such effort. Learning NOT to ejaculate unless you choose to is a step, only you need to move beyond that into surrender, into allowing your pleasure to grow, like a garden of bodily delights, into genuine ecstasy. When you stop trying & seeking, you can be.

Pleasure is a rewarding enjoyment of delicious sensations, in itself a good thing. Ecstasy is when pleasure shifts in a quantum leap beyond itself, into the flux & flow of pure energy beyond your ego in states of pure being. In fact, ecstasy includes the full range of experience, of simply living intensely & fully alive. Only when you allow yourself to dissolve in sustained intervals of ecstasy, does the experience begin to change you permanently, for the better. Then it can make you a happier, more joyful person.

My Beloved is fighting off some kind of cold/flu bug, so I've been sleeping downstairs on our guest futon bed the last 2 nights. Thus I'm spending at least several hours each night masturbating without concern over disturbing his rest . . . naked & thighs wide, caressing my chest, inner thighs, big thick erection lifting, swaying, tugging & caressing balls & inner thighs while stroking my engorged penis, breeeeeathing deeeeeply, soaring in a levitating erotic trance of fusing with totality, boundaries dissolving, shimmering life-force humming & connecting with the synchronistic web of the cosmos . . .

As many of you may know, I'm happily partnered & adore my partner more all the time, yet I also enjoy masturbating more than ever. For me, at least, it's definitely not an either/or situation. I'm blessed to enjoy a domestic realtionship of abundant, warm-hearted eroticism, including a license to bate as often & as much as I wish to my heart's content.

The amazing thing is, like any art, masturbating as a fine art (what I call Mindful Masturbation) pursued diligently, continues to get better & better with no limit in sight!

I'm not only what some call a "masturbation guru," but also a yogi, among other things. Yoga is a daily practices that totally, absolutely enhances my masturbatory skills in every way. My personality is what psychologists call "hypomanic" anyway, not manic & certainly not depressive. This just means I'm happy & energetic most of the time, resilient when faced with problems, a quality I feel is a great gift. I can suffer, but never for long.

To this quality I add awareness of what the yogis call Kundalini, the Serpent Fire, or the energy that flows along the spine bewteen the anus & the brain. Sometimes this is deliberately awakened via yogic practices such as "Breath of Fire." Or it may happen spontaneously. When forced or spontaneous, this rush of energy can be overwhelming, causing over-stimulation, sleeplessness, hallucinations. It's a potent reality.

What I suggest as a safer, gentler approach is to consider Kundalini the natural, healthy flow of nervous system signals between brain & base of spine, (both directions) that can prove most beneficial & life-enhancing when you have no major blocks of muscle tension or health problems. Yogis describe this energy ascending in 2 spirals reminiscent of DNA, & opening or lighting up the 7 chakras or energy centers of the body as it rises. In Western terms, these 7 are associated with the endocrine system & autonomic nervous system functions.

Masturbating mindfully, cultivating your erotic energy through conscious, deliberate self-pleasuring in a relaxed, healthy, sustained & artful manner, awakens this Kundalini energy (said to sleep coiled at the base of the spine) to rise & illuminate your entire being with the ongoing intensity & bliss of feeling fully alive that we call joy.

Simple pleasure becomes the egoless flow of ecstasy beyond form that leads to the lasting joy of living. Pleasure X Ecstasy = Joy.

So . . . I'm riding the Naga (SEE blog for 11.21 below) of the big, beautiful King of Serpents between my legs, & hoping you're stroking yourself as you read this, riding WITH me . . .

I read your blog entry [SEE: directly below & also blogs of 9.3 & 9.24] grinning from ear to ear. It reminded me of how wonderful it was to meet you in person in April, and your wonderful partner, what a fantastic experience it was (shit, did I end a sentence with a prepositional phrase??). I have never done a Body Electric course or any kind of erotic "workshop" before and I was on pins and needles like a kid before XMas to finally meet you. When you sent out a call for brothers to participate in your new DVDs I know it is very difficult to plan and have participation from your brothers, even though they would want to participate with every fiber of their being, we all have constraints with work/lives/time/lovers/wives/boyfriends/girlfriends/husbands, etc. All I know is I fully support your idea of how masturbation can improve your life and I wanted to participate in that vision.

Masturbation does not have to be about being alone or doing something on your own, masturbation with a partner or someone you love is a way to share reaching another level of sexual satisfaction and spiritual centering. I believe our sexual energy eminates from our center, it grows and pulsates with our heart. The more we meditate on it, the more we understand it. Masturbation can be done alone, with a loved one, or in my dreams in the middle of a huge auditorium with 100s of people masturbating at the same time, wouldn't that be cool??

I personally happen to be a big fan of porn, not as seeing an ideal or something I can never hope to experience, but as a way to see another human being experiencing intense sexual gratification, it is like sexual "art", something to be appreciated and loved. I love to take videos and pics of myself, not in a narcistic way, but to remember a hot time, or relive a sensual and sexual experience. I love when I see a video of myself and I think, SHIT THAT'S HOT! As you know, I was taking my own remembrances of our time together with my own little camera and I watch them repeatedly and think HOW LUCKY I WAS, to share such an experience with like minded men. I know MANY men can never hope to have such freedom because of family/social restrictions, but I know with your vision you are providing men with a "life line" of how we can live our lives. We all have obligations and we just can't just throw a switch and change our lives in one day, but little by little, I think we can all work to a better place of sexual self acceptance, freedom and love.

Big kisses!

Porn records & celebrates that sexual & erotic aspect of human existence that our mainstream culture still turns an abashed, or a guilty gaze away from, after a long,hard, wide-eyed stare. In fact, I personally enjoy viewing erotic imagery a certain amount, including some really intense & wonderful sessions of masturbating to porn. Some of my faves recently come from Argentina & France.

However, I'm in a challenging position on this issue. Because, while I have absolutely no moral or ethical objection to pornography (so long as it is not harmful or demeaning to the subjects, which is sometimes an ambiguous matter, not clear-cut) I've also learned from my own experience & my studies of human sexuality that a fixation on porn can be seriously limiting. Some guys spend most of their "free time" chained like slaves to imagery of other people having most of the fun!

This is not an either/or issue, my Brothers! I'm not interested in disparaging porn, though I personally find much contemporary USA-produced porn rather lifeless, mechanical, & ultimately boring. It's often formulaic, jaded, totally predictable. Also I'd never discourage any fellow from sometimes enjoying the particularly male arousal from explicit visual imagery, that can fuel your masturbatory pleasure.

Still, an osessive focus on recorded images of other people masturbating or engaging in sexual behavior, inevitably takes you at least somewhat out of your own body. Into your mind. Away from the actual, immediate presence of being mindfully in your own body & sensations. Therefore much of my focus in encouraging Mindful Masturbation is to ALSO suggest you practice being FULLY PRESENT, FULLY EMBODIED, FULLY ALIVE!

This happens only when you surrender to what IS, when you seek to love yourself exactly as you are here & now, & rather than fantasiszing (which is inevitably thought-forms, passing phantoms of the ego) you allow arousal to help you to BE HERE NOW. This may be a hard-sell to any guy who has not tried it, or who resists--oh well! Surrender is the key.

When you open yourself to masturbating this way you also discover that the challenge of mindfulness can be shared with a fellow man or men, masturbating together in Phallic Brotherhood. You may never know what you're missing if you don't at least explore the option of ALSO masturbating only to your own body, & with actual playmates.

Honestly, I adore some sincere, passionate porn in which the participants are really getting off & there's some genuine emotional enthusiasm--yet all that pales beside the limitless horizons of bliss that open up with mindful, fully-embodied erotic ecstasy . . .

Another cold night & another hot bubble bath (see blog below of 11.19) & prolonged, high-quality ecstasy sinking deeeeep into my marrow, now radiating forth as not only warmth from my entire body, but joy from my whole heart!!!

Having grown up in the Far East. (as you can learn a bit more about on the bio page of this site) I've always been fascinated with those gigantic serpentine dragons that guard the entrances of the Buddhist temples, flanking the steps to the front doorway: the Nagas. These mythical creatures are really spirit-beings, of radiant flame-like patterns & colors, representing protection & wisdom. This also resonates with the more Western imagery of serpents from ancient times, in Egypt & Europe, even Australia--in all these cases the serpent generally represents life-force, energy, or Goddess wisdom.

The Far Eastern Nagas are lordly serpents said to live in the depth of rivers. Such flowing waters represent the stream of Life we're all part of & also the emotional depths of the collective unconscious mind . . . & all such dragons, monsters & giants are often said to represent vast, deep forces of Nature. All very well, but here's one of the basic stories:

A good-hearted young man lives near the river & likes to go & meditate beside the flowing waters. One day as he sits in lotus-pose, a gigantic crested head of brilliant colors with huge gleaming round eyes rises from the river waters, & lifts up on a huge serpentine neck. Instead of fearing this awesome, monstrous creature, the young man lifts a hand in blessing & welcome! "Greetings & Namaste!" he says, meaning "Welcome: the Divine spark in me honors the Divine spark in you!" The Naga hisses through fearsomely-toothed jaws: "Most excellent! In your solitary practice, you have developed great inner awareness & conquored irrational fear of the unknown! As your reward--" the Naga slithers onto the land nearby the young man "--let me ask for your friendship." Though his heart beats wildly in excitement, the young smiles serenely: "Of course, I'm honored to be your friend." Then the Naga ripples with rainbow light & becomes a handsome, richly-dressed King. They become loving companions & eventually the Naga King takes the youth to visit the bottom of the river where this King guards the Palace of Wisdom. As a gift he gives the young man an emerald heart, a blue pearl of priceless inner wisdom & a ruby of insight to wear on his brow. They remain close friends forever after.

Among the meanings of serpents is the yogic idea of kundalini or seprent fire, the energy that is said to lie coiled at the base of the spine, that awaits awakening. Kundalini is also associated with erotic energy & with conscious arousal may "hatch" from the twin eggs of your testes to rise with phallic arousal along your spine into your head where your spiritual awakening will "crown" you with new wisdom from within your body. Also, the open jaws of the Naga are said to guard the portal that leads to nirvana or enlightenment. One interpretation is that rather than fear, it's best to let the Naga swallow you & as you are digested, you awaken.

Lovely images, at the very least, which relate directly to our beloved practices of masturbating mindfully!

We've had some wonderfully chilly nights at last, down to freezing or a bit below. This offers me the special joy of getting up early & taking a hot bubble bath, during which I always love to play the game I call "Find-the-Sea-Serpent!"

Man-O-Man!!! Nothing feels quite like allowing the liquid heat of the bath to sink into my marrow while I float within that billowing of fragrant foam, the slick fluid of the satin body wash I use lubricating the stiff meaty arc of my erection. Beyond words, the bliss I feel, churning slowly through a variety of postions & strokes: pinching my nips; reaching under a lifted leg to pull my balls while doing forehand/backhand U-turns over the length & bulbous head of my penis; caressing the furry furrow between my buttocks & dipping fingers into my pulsating rosebud while the other hand triggers my frenulum . . .

I'm also playing more than ever with penis reflexology (described in 2 blogs below on 11.2 & 11.6) using both hands. Palming the brow of my head while rubbing the underside of the glans; circling flat on my heart while rubbing a bit lower on the underside of the shaft; fiddling where my scrotum attaches while squeezing & tugging the whole shebang! I also keep mindful of breathing deeeply, often inhaling through my nose, belly rising--exhaling through my mouth, belly sinking. Plus that Sea-Serpent! Well, he's not nearly so elusive as the famous Nessie of Loch Ness in Scotland, NO! Only there's something delightfully childlike about watching that flared pink head on the serpentine neck come & go among the frothy clouds & hills. Rolling him back & forth slowly between both palms . . . hiding him & revealing him . . Man-O-Man!!!

Well, these bubble bath session can be among the most intense ever--& I'm also mindful these days of something powerful & profound about all this astounding p3, or pure penile pelasure. Yes, when pursued mindfully with a few key practices such as breathing, keeping relaxed, focused in the here & now (not disembodied via porn) this can light up every one of your 50-70 tyrillion human cells!

Still, I've learned that erotic pleasure in itself doesn't get you where we all want to go: HAPPINESS! No, & it may surprise you at first, hearing this from me, of all people. Pleasure is wonderful, only like pain, it comes & goes, & pleasure ultimately changes nothing unless you allow yourself to be changed. When pleasure trips over into ongoing ecstasy--that is the sheer joy of feeling totally alive in your body--your heart begins opening. All those separated parts, head & body, heart & genitals, spirit & matter, begin fusing back into Oneness. By loving yourself this way you embrace your wholeness.

Plus, of course, it may very well feel better than anything you've ever felt before!!!

MM4M can accomplish this, if you pursue the higher states of ectsasy diligently, ascending, & moving deeper beyond common pleasure into extraordinary states of ecstatic bliss. It's there for you, in your hands!

This can change YOU & change your life to one of greater joy. So why settle for less?!

A major phallic creation myth comes from ancient Egypt & is rich with powerful significance. (Hopefully you're aroused & masturbating while reading this--just as I am while writing it!) This is a myth of emergence, rather than of a word of power being spoken to create instant special F-X, order emerges from chaos. Some scientific theories of causative formation now speak of emergence as well.

Before the Egg of Time, nothing exists but a sort of liquid chaos called NU, swirling potential. A sort of no-thingness, rich with all potentials before anything actually else exists. Just as the Nile waters subsided after the annual flood leaving rich desposits of fertile black soil from the heart of Africa, the Lord of the Primordial Mound, ATUM, emerges from NU.

As the first THING in a context of overwhelming no-thingness, ATUM soon realizes that unless he does something to make himself more self-aware, more solid & substantial, more complete, he could easily dissolve back into the swirling void he cam from. Thus he joinshis hand with his phallus, begins masturbating, & the pleasure he gives himself sustains & protects him. Rather than dissolving, he grows stronger & more substantial.

Eventually, ATUM (whose name means The Complete One in ancient Egyptian!) comes to the point of his first ejaculation. Actually, he catches the spurts of semen in his mouth, so perhaps he is flexible enough to actually suck himself to climax. His mouth is so full that he coughs twice, the first cough producing SHU the Lord of Air & the second becoming TEFNUT the Lady of Mist. So the primordial elements of the world begin emerging from ATUM's original, creative act of self-love & self-pleasure & self-sustaining.

As the story continues, Atum continues masturbating & more aspects of the world emerge.

INTERPRETATION: Clearly this ancient scenario signifies several important things for men today. 1.) Masturbating is a creative act. 2.) Masturbating can sustain you & nourish your existence, making you stronger & more aware. 3.) Consuming your semen may be considered a sacred act.

All of this relates quite well to yesterday's post (below) which you might also wish to read, if you have not. As for me, I plan to masturbate some more, then spend some time working on a new painting I'm doing called "The Complete One." Someday you'll probably see it on the Male Mystery School website which is also coming soon from my immense creative energy . . .

Man, oh, man! Amazing, really, how after all these years the full-body pleasure I feel while masturbating mindfully only get better & better!! Using plenty of lube, both hands alternating left & right, keeping relaxed & breathing deeply all the while, my entire body lights up toes-to-head, as if all my being is nothing but a gigantic, throbbing, indescribably ecstatic erection!!! I'm one BIG PENIS the size of the universe . . .

Not bragging here guys--only struggling to hint in words at what's beyond words. Many guys understand what I'm indicating, that the words can only point towards something ineffably glorious, shining, totally exquisite. Many of you taste this yourselves.

Seriously I feel we really are experiencing a New Erotic Revolution, in particular as male masturbation comes out of ITS closet: more & more men proudly proclaim their solosexual nature with less & less inhibition about discussing this, sharing it online, in person, even daring to show our faces & share our names. I seek to inspire by example in these ways.

Still, quite honestly as I observe how men are now masturbating, I'm not judging anyone, yet I still feel that atleast 95% of the guys I see are seriously missing the boat in terms of how much pelasure they could be getting from self-pleasuring. I really have nothing at all against porn (+ I know this is a hard-sell against a lot of conditioning & assumptions) yet guys who spend hours fixated on porn while sitting in one position using one or two strokes at most . . . y'all have no idea of what you could be feeling! You're stuck. Limited.

It's not an either/or issue. There's nothing wrong with fueling the fires of your erotic engines with some imagery at times, even fantasy, however these easily take you our of your own body, out of the space-time where you are, out of the present moment NOW that is in fact, the only reality. You owe it to yourself to check out adding more mindful sessions as well. Try keeping the focus just on yourself, your own body & penis, or the man or men you're actually masturbating with. Try mindful mutual masturbation or mindful cock2cock masturbation with your buddies.

Indeed, there's nothing in the world more complete than a human male with penis-in-hand. For years I've observed the special quality of this reality. As if evolution designed us for this very purpose, to complete ourselves, hands-to-penises. To increasingly love ourselves through pleasuring ourselves . . . man, oh, man . . . this feels beyond . . .

I've never felt anything so good as the penile bliss at this moment radiating from between my legs, to my extremities & back, as surely as the blood circulates from my heart all through my entire body . . .

One mild criticism sometimes leveled at masturbation is that it's "immature" sexual behavior, something I totally take issue with. Indeed, to proudly, honestly & openly claim solosexuality as a practice of primary importance in your life, is a mark of mental & emotional maturity in a man. This defies much cultural conditioning that denigrates self-pleasure as a recourse or alternative. In reality, solosex is as real as anything, & the most effective means I know for that quest to love yourself better on all levels & to regain your innate wholeness as a human male!

I've noted before how small boys with parents enlightened enough not to discourage them from masturbating anytime anywhere as much as they like, tend to play with themselves incessantly. Such blissful boys most often have at least one hand inside their pants, or on their crocth. This is natural & healthy. Adult males who fully embrace self-pleasuring as one of the nicest things in life might like to do this, yet our cultures don't allow this, at least in general public circumstances.

Most definitely I find that many men are not prepared emotionally & mentally to come back full-circle to the core importance of masturbating until reaching at least middle age. It helps to get over the idea that partnered sex is a way to please yourself or to prove something. Plus getting past the either/or attitude helps. You can enjoy both partners & solosexuality more abundantly when you don't imagine they're mutually exclusive.

I've also described how around ages 6 & 7 my experiences of rubbing our penises together with a boyfriend my age was so exquisite & formative of my erotic awareness. It set a tone & to this day I adore that practice. Not long ago a handsome friend visited & we spent 3 or 4 hours, mostly on the couch, legs spread wide face-to-face, our penises & balls together in an erotic trance of cock2cock mindful masturbation. Our souls entwined; this phallic communion communicates deeply beyond words . . .

However not until around age 11 or 12 did I begin deliberately masturbating, using the water in the shower as lube at first. (At the time I also, unfortunately retreated into several decades of shyness over how skinny my body was!) However, I also recall reading some relatively enlightene sex-education that explained--the changes of puberty as the body & genitalia mature produces erotic sensations of an intensity no child can feel!

Most definitely, as adult our bodies are capable of generating & sustaining erotic ecstasy that's genuinely transformational. It can make you a better person, psychologically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually merging your parts back into their essential whole. In fact, even while sleeping, I find I'm at least holding my genitals in one hand most of the time. At home I often have a hand in my pants or on my crotch.

Sometimes we may take our mature male genitalia for granted, we may forget for a while what an astonishing & powerful gift the human male penis can be . . . only this is what mindfulness is for, to pay full attention . . . to awaken to the NOW . . .

As I'm feeling this intense p3 right now, my heart overflows with gratitude, as the diamond nectar or precum oozes from the tip of my big thick erection, extending in threads from my fingertip, dissolving on my tongue . . .

This beautiful day: after working out & Yoga, I've been pleasuring myself with full mindful attention . . . using plentiful lube, dancing to some drumming on the CD player, sometimes in front of a full-length mirror, noticing how rubbing the frenulum at the underside of the head of my penis awakens my brow; a bit below that on the underside of the shaft opens my heart; circling a finger on the tip where crystal drops of precum ooze crowns my head with exquisite sensitivity . . .

The concept of "penis reflexology" is simply something wonderful for you to play with as you play with your penis. Certain regions of your penis correspond with other major parts of you body: so stimulating the head of your penis stimulates the head on your shoulders, for example. Thus, overall, giving a truly thorough work-out & massage to your penis can arouse, tone & pleasure your entire body: ALL of you, head-to-toes!!!

Of course it also helps to remember now & then that the most major sex organ of all in your body lies between your ears. Your brain is where it all registers--yet at the same time, your entire body, not just your genitals, can be invited to participate in your arousal & pleasure. As a pro in this field, I see progress . . . as I observe more & more of you guys including your nipples, your balls, inner thighs, all sorts of other body parts in your blissful self-pleasuring sessions.

These may or may not be empirical, biological realities--only if you play with them, energy follows thought & you FEEL THEM! For example, the meatus at the tip corresponds with the crown of your head. A major phallic god of the Far East is often shown with a fount of sacred nectar, or the source of a sacred river founting from the top of his head! Also the underside of the glans is said to correspond with your brow center or place of intuitive sight. The underside of the shaft, where your foreskin attaches (or would attach is you're circumcized) corresponds with your heart.

Further, consider the whole of the shaft corresponds with your torso. Even internally, the two firmer spongy chambers correspond with your ribcage & lungs; the softer spongy chamber running the length & down into your perineum, is like the spine. Your erection actually has 3 roots anchored into your body; 2 shorter ones anchor into your inner thighs, corresponding with your legs; the 3rd root of the end of the spongy inner chamber goes all the way down to just in front of your anus. I consider this longest "root" corresponds with the tail of your primate ancestors, no longer so apparent in your human form.

What it all boils down to is that your penis is like a smaller YOU & YOU are like a larger version of your penis. At any rate, as I'm again admiring my raw nakedness in the mirror . . . dancing, pulling slow & long on the swaying, swinging, distended shaft of my erection with glistening lubed fingers, breathing deeply & keeping relaxed, it sure feels fine all over me, inside & out, toes to crown!!!

If you want to feel erotic ecstasy as never before--from head-to-toes & back again--here's how. Indeed . . right now I'm aglow with bliss as if all my body is a huge, vibrant erection!

Most definitely Mindful Masturbation is worth pursuing, even if your primary motivation is simply to feel more intense, powerful, overwhelming erotic ecstasy than ever before. Many men long-experienced in sex with partners & solosexuality discover there there ARE limitless possibilities of bliss beyond any previous experience . . . when you are willing to break old habitual patterns . . . & explore the "undiscovered country." Though some men cannot imagine there is much more to self-pleasure than they already know & experience, you never know unless to open to such possibilities & try them.

Certain aspects of what I share may sound far-fetch or a bit "woo-woo" to some guys until you begin practicing by breathing deeply, keeping relaxed, focusing on your own body & immediate sensation in the HERE & NOW, + make ejaculation a choice, in order to cultivate those infinitely higher, more refined potentials of p3 or pure penile pleasure. Those who begin practicing self-pleasure more mindfully, tend to begin awakening such possibilities within themselves. Then what I'm saying makes more sense.

One delightful form of phallic awareness originates in reflexology, a concept common to modern massage therapists & Traditional Chinese Medicine teachings. Put simply, this means that any part of your anatomyy where major concentrations of sensory-receptor nerves cluster, such as feet, hands, face, lips, iris of the eyes, ears--& YES, your penis!!!--also has direct connections to all other parts of your anatomy.

There are specific locations in each region, for example the foot, that correspond with specific other parts of the body. For example: on the foot, the big toe is said to correspond with your head or brain--the heel of the foot with the feet themselves, as if the entire body can be mapped on your foot. Anyone enjoying the intense pleasure, relaxation & tehrapeutic benefits of a fine foot massage knows ther may be some literal truth to this!

There ares also delicious correspondence between your penis & your entire body; likewise your entire body corresponds with your penis . For the conscious & dedicated male masturbator, these can be limitlessly ecstatic correspondences to explore in practice.

ESSENTIALLY: Your penis is like a microcosm of you, parallel to you from head to toes; you are a macrocosm of your penis, likewise. Your penis is a little YOU--YOU are a big penis. The glans corresponds with your head & brain; vice versa is equally valuable. The shaft overall corrersponds with your torso. The base of the shaft where skin attaches to your scrotum corresponds with your genitalia themselves.

There are many more correspondences, but these are enough to start playing with. I'll elaborate a more on all of this soon. Meanwhile, I'm on my way to doing some Yoga, siting meditation & to masturbate mindfully some more . . . ENJOYYYYY!!!

In my experience, nothing more perfectly complements, enhances & propels the pactice of masturbating mindfully than Yoga. This morning, after rising during the Ambrosial Hours of the yogis (before daybreak to welcome the sunrise) I've been masturbating less mindfully off & on as I tended my first chores: coffee, pooping, reading a bit & email. Still, the "morning wood" effect inspired me to free my rampant erection from my soft cotton house-pants & I've been squeezing, pulling, tickling, tugging on it frequently all the while . . . this lends a delicious aura of overall erotic pleasure to all my activities . . . only now I'm read to do my morning Yoga & I'll return to complete this entry afterwards.

A BIT LATER: Candles on the altar; Phallic Images for that soft-focus of attention; breathing deeply into my belly & beginning with poses called "mountain," "tree," & "open triangle" . . . my mind softens as the bliss of stretching & flexing muscles, faint soreness where the muscles & tendons NEED stretching & relaxing as blood-flow moves in & out of tissues in waves like the ocean along a regenerating shoreline . . . aaaAAAaahhhhh . . . yesss! This cessation of thinking so much, as awareness of mind & body merge = being. This is mindfulness: Be Here Now; Be Happy Now. Surrender to what IS.

Then, at the conclusion, lying prone in "sponge" position, feeling totally dissolved into connectedness with ALL, open to the universal energies everything expresses--my erection again stirs. Only this time I'm not stimulated by lovely photos of naked men or radiant erections, not answering emails from men aroused & buzzing with erotic energy. Instead: I'm directly expriencing my own body. Gently, tenderly, lovingly stimulating the erection protruding from my trousers, I levitate, cellular awareness blossoms all through my body like flowers in the Garden of Paradise where I live. My penis (like yours) is the current, present, totally alive blossom of the bodies of all my male ancestors . . . bliss beyond understanding . . . indescribable gratitude & Oneness . . .

What totally DOES matter about the size of your penis is that it is perfect for you, exactly as it is, as designed by Nature.

Millions of years of human evolution; billions of years of evolving Life on Earth; + generations of stardust of the expanding Universe perhaps 12.8 billions years in duration: all conspire to provide you with this magnificent organ. Your complex & highly-evolved human penis is capable of illuminating every cell of your body & levitating your being into expanded states of feeling connected with all things in existence. It's up to YOU.

This statement about the size of your penis may sound like circular logic designed to evade the issue, however it's anything but! In reality, human males ARE often concered: "Is it big enough?" "It's smaller than HIS!" "What can I do to make it bigger?" Well, stroke it with ever-increasing artfulness & devotion . . .

Nothing safe & functional can be done to actually enlarge your penis. In reality, a much larger-than-average penis will not necessarily provide you more pleasure or a secure ego. A smaller-than-average penis can definitely provide you every bit as much pleasure as a penis of any size. There's no such thing as an average person anyway! You are YOU.

In my years of erotic activism in the field of male masturbatory excellence, I've encountered a lot of insecurity about penis size, including some of my OWN insecurity until about the age of 40 when I began developing Mindful Masturbation. Until then I thought mine was too small. My practice began focusing on intensity of ecstastic sensations . . . & at first I spent 6 weeks masturbating for hours each day, without ejaculating a single time.

In my early 40s as I began photgraphing myself naked & masturbating, I discovered how flattering the perspective of camera angles close between the legs can be! Only, like the idea that bigger is better, that's an illusion & also a delusion. Most important, I realized that any man really loving himself . . . well, he looks pretty darned amazing, regardless of any anatomical measurements!!! It's mostly his attitude you see . . .

BOTTOM LINE: The quality of pleasure you enjoy matters more than any measurable quantity, of flesh itself, or of heroic amounts of time spent enjoying it.

It's 6:37 AM. Still dark, as I begin this entry--some of you are aware I'm an early-to-bed-early-to-rise kinda guy. Not a nocturnal animal, unless you count that predawn tailend of the night, the quiet "morning wood," time of strong arousal & deeply mindful masturbation that I savor! I sit here smiling, pants down around my ankles in the cool office.

This morning I've been UP & enjoying how stimulating my big, thick, warm erection while breathing deeply causes a "glow of awareness" all through my entire body & a luminosty of my being. The ongoing radiance of total happiness fills me from the soles of my feet to the crown of my head; from fingertips to the middle of my chest; all these extremities converging upon the heart beating in my chest, the stiff & blood-filled penis pulsating between my legs. In fact, it's all one endless journey of embodiment . . .

The current cutting edge of spiritual awareness for men of Planet Earth is this New Erotic Revolution: to claim solosexuality as a highly effective & powerful means of meditation, self-awareness, personal growth, intelligence increase & consciousness expansion.

Once the frenzied excitment of male adolescence begins to pale (this passage of "tween" years may take several decades for many men!) some guys return from the sex-hunt of partnered sex to re-discover solosexuality. Nothing better or worse about it. Only Solosex is often both quantitatively & qualitatively far superior to the ego-games & communication challenges involves with sexual partners. You discover states of indescribably ecstasy & expanded consciousness otherwise unavailable. This makes you smarter & more balanced.

We're now reinventing solosexuality as male Erotic Revolutionaries. "Solosexual" may refer to a variety of erotic behavior, that is masturbating; or you may proudly decide to call yourself "solosexual" as an identity. In reality, doubtless there are far more solosexuals on Earth than any other label such as "gay, bi-, or hetero" people.

Many solosexuals also enjoy & experience other forms of erotic behavior & identity, yet there are probably close to 6.8 billion behaving solosexually at times, roughly 3.4 billion males practicing solosexuality. IMAGINE: harnessing all that wonderful erotic energy for the benefit of humanity & the planet . . .

Neither identification as a solosexual, nor solosexual behavior, is either/or. These are merely options. You canhave it all. Yet encouraging excellence in practicing solosexuality is a path to peace & loving Brotherhood among Men! Plus, this simply feels soooo incredibly goooood . . .

At present I'm coalescing, back into awareness of my human body as a "separate individual," coming back from a radically-altered state of solosexual erotic trance: several hours of naked, highly lubricated danceturbation.

More than ever, this profoung & powerful experience reinforces my sense of the limitless possibilities of conscious male arousal encoded in my DNA (& in your DNA), in the XY chromosome of all human males. We're designed for this by millions--perhaps even billions?--of years of planetary evolution. All I know is it's bliss beyond words.

Ever since the onset of sexual reproduction maybe a billion years ago, your heritage as a bipedal primate equipped with the most complex penis & brain on the planet was set into motion. In a real sense, every single male ancestors is still within you, in the essential nature of your design. All that makes you male: your scrotum containing the testes churning out sperm cells; brain centers that interact with the testes to produce testosterone & other hormones to maintain your large genitalia & secondary sexual features; your prostate gland, deep-soundinglarynx, shoulder width, muscle strength, & body hair. These marvelous male characteristics are an ancient ancestral heritage indeed!

And you are their latest iteraction, their fullest expression--they all culminate in YOU!

As I've mentioned in earlier blogs, I really feel that all of my male ancestors in a sense "live on" in my body--as yours do in yours. Regarding my tingling, raw, honest nakedness reflected in a full-length mirror, every one of those thousands of men, those millions of male creaures . . . is here! My face is their face; my hands are their hands; my feet are their feet; my penis is theirs! My pleasure as I caress myself lovingly, as I cultivate the ongoing bliss of my arousal through mindful self-pleasuring, is their bliss . . .

If any of those male acestors suffered sexual frustration (as many probably did!) then in a genuine sense, by fully surrendering to the solosexual ecstasy I've learned to generate for myself & others, a kind of retroactive healing of those men seems to occur. It feels as if the intensity of my own pleasure inundates & dissolves that legacy of frustration. Or at least, in my own lifetime, the ongoing abundance of erotic ecstasy overflows, washes away my limitations in wave upon wave of gratitude for the joyous adventure of living NOW!!!

My matter has converged from the stardust of this evolving Universe into the magnificent mystery of my male human design & I explore its erotic potentials with zero limits . . .

Among the wonderful benefits of solosexuality, is that masturbating mindfully actually increases your intelligence!

There are many reasons for such an audacious assertion, though I'll only touch on a few this time, just as I'm also busy touching my big thick, warm erection periodically while writing this! As usual, I write this blog while aroused, pausing to pinch a nipple with one hand while firmly squeezing & pulling on my erection with the other, then reaching under my balls to my perineum, probing back toward my anus, the upper hand ticlking my armpit, tugging my ear, the lower gently pushign at my rosebud . . .

By Mindful Masturbation, I mean paying full attention to your body & your sensations while practicing creative, high-quality, sustained self-pleasuring. Solosexuality, in this case means a kind of behavior, keeping a masturbatory focus, though this need not be practiced alone--not at all! It can be enjoyed mutually with another man, or in a group of men. Yet to be a solosexual male is also a title of great honor & wisdom, like being a yogi or sage.

Masturbating mindfully can increase your intelligence many ways. While aroused, a certain portion of you body's blood is consigned to your erection; that much less for your brain functions actually calms your mind, as you may be less inclined to think obsessively, to live in thoughts. You may become fully present. Prolonged, quality erotic ecstasy while masturbating also generates higher levels of pleasure-reward chemicals & hormones: serotonin, endorphins, oxytocin, are maximized. Stress chemicals are reduced & dissolved.

Intelligence, of course, is not merely measurable I.Q., it's how well you function. A sexually frustrated, erotically-needy man does not function well. A man who surrrenders to his ever-increasing skills for solosexual pleasure, becomes happier, more balanced & secure & hence enjoys more harmonious interactions with others. He contributes his best.

Don't think about this too much: do it! Get naked, get out the lube, light a candle, put on ambient music, start your deep breathing & stretching & relaxing, go before the mirror & look into your own eyes as you begin caressing your body: "I love you, _____, (your own name) I really, REALLY love you!" Now fully surrender to pleasuring yourself . . . while increasing your intelligence at the same time!

As a human male do you totally & whole-heartedly adore & celebrate your penis & identify your core being with this magnificent organ???

Otherwise you may reinforce that dichotomy, that duality, that separates the rest of your being from the precious, mysterious & sacred treasure between your legs.

Even enlightend sex educators & psychologists sometimes suggest that extreme fixation with & identification with your penis is not entirely healthy or balanced! In other words, hold back, don't quite go there?! Well, let me challenge this: as proud male masturbators (regardless of what other relationships we may enjoy!) may we openly claim complete Oneness & identification with our penises as a healthy, wholesome, natural & sacred mandate. Viewing your penis as separate or less important than the rest of your body is the very problem! You are One with your penis! You are it & it is you!

The human male penis of the 21st Century is an extraordinary organ of self-awareness & communication & communion--of unique & magnificent beauty--that has evolved for many millions of years as our primate ancestors emerged among mammals. For 5 or 6 million years as we've emerged among the Great Apes. Our behavioral fascination with the penis has evolved it's capabilities immensely. Now in just the last 10 or 12 millennia since the end of the last Ice Age, the human penis is no longer merely an organ of reproduction . . . & in the New Millennium it's becoming an agent of personal transformation.

Your penis is entirely about pleasure. This kind of intense erotic ecstasy for its own sake balances you as a being in the face of all the rest of your experience of daily living. The human experience inevitably involves some stress, struggle, even suffering & pain at times. Yet to fully embrace the abandoned enjoyment of p3 or pure penile pleasure as the authentic & honorable core of your existence, keeps you happy, healthy & sane.

This is not obsessive or unbalanced, unless you view it as such & fail to totally surrender to the mystery of the Phallus. The human blueprint, however this came about, has designed you for this, endowed you with this powerful, profound & glorious male organ that has limitless possibilities beyond mere reproduction.

All you need do is open your mind & your heart, breathe & relax & spread your legs wide . . . pleasure yourself with ever-increasing creativity & skill . . . the boundaries dissolve . . . aaaAAAaahhh!!!!!

Right now, in the present moment here, I AM attracting everything I could possibly want in my life . . . using both hands, caressing my belly, while breeeeeathing deeeeply & slowwwwly, sliding fingers down to my inner thighs, then pushing down under my scrotum to massage my perineum (as my big, thick erection twitches & gleams with lube!) then out along inner thighs, back around to my buttocks, dipping fingertips into the fuzzy crack to touch the palpitating rosebud, then upward along my back, around to my abs & chest, pinching nipples, up over my face, on my hair, tugging my ears, (grinning to myself) then back down the front of my torso to comb through my pubic bush, cup & gently pull my balls--before resuming the gentle squeezing of my erect shaft, pulling along the length, fingering the frenulum of the underside & thumbing the velvety pink head of my penis . . .

All this feels indescribably delicious, truly beyond words, so I must emerge from that state periodically in order to write this. Yes, I write this blog in a highly-charged erotic state of bliss! So, you may wonder what does this have to do with Law of Attraction, the concept popularized in the hit film "THE SECRET"?

Well, everything in the world, it turns out. Some folks misunderstand this priciple as being all about attracting "things," material goodies to make you happy. Things don't make you happy, not for long anyway, unless you're already happy. I've studied all this for some years now & I'm finally getting really clear on it: "Like attracts like." In fact, what it means is that HERE & NOW you are attracting the qualities of life you are experiencing.

It's all about attitude. You do not control all the events of your life, however you can navigate your experience of living. You get whatever you focus on--no exceptions. Only being human we often focus a lot on what we don't want, so we keep getting it. Get clear on what you don't want; then shift your focus to what you want.

You can use this to attract things, also, there's nothing wrong with things. Yet you can have everything you want in your life right now by doing only one thing: BE HAPPY NOW. To fully embrace masturbating mindfully is a path to health, happiness, abundance.

It's how I've created the MM4M DVDs . . . it's Real Magick . . . it's the way I live my life!

First & foremost this is about loving yourself--not only physically, but on all levels. Intense, prolonged, high-quality penile pleasure circulates all through you as blood & oxygen do, lighting up every cell, dissolving all boundaries.

(I KNOW this for a fact, as I'm writing this in the later stages of an exquisite session, breathing deeply, dancing & writhing, using both hands with lots of lube along my love-shaft, caressing myself all over until nothing exists but this gigantic throbbing penis!!!)

A special passion for & devotion to masturbating as a human male--in reality actually preferring masturbation to other forms of sexual expression--is a cutting-edge stance that can now be honored & encouraged for its unique virtues. Not only is there nothing wrong with this, it has many wonderful benefits.

For your own sake & that of others you know, solosexuality may very well be an optimal choice! Or it may not be so much a conscious choice. Perhaps you have discovered in practice that self-pleasuring simply works best for you as your primary erotic fulfillment. Certainly, without the need to try to control a partner or to gain specific cooperation, you can focus on levels of ecstatic pleasure & intense erotic sensation unavailable to most men. Embracing these possibilities, you are a pioneer of the New Erotic Revolution!

To proudly & openly claim such a nature may initially require some courage. You challenge many cultural assumptions & myths about the purpose of sexual behavior. Yet sexual relations with others are often problematical with egotism, personal games, communication problems, & incompatability.

Loving yourself, physically & on all levels is entirely up to you. It's a declaration of independence that, taken far enough, can in fact lead you to an almost mystical awareness of the total interdependence of everything . . . connectedness, yet not dependency, or co-dependent behaviors. Beyond words you can directly experience Oneness with All Things. You may experience a profound ability to accept & allow what IS.

Solosexuality is totally safe, encouraging psychological security within yourself. It's always available, encouraging you to be present in the NOW--not focused on recalling the past or anticitpating the future. Present in your body. You constantly cultivate self-awareness & mental health, as well as physical health, along with spiritual growth. You can BE HAPPY NOW!

As you're more balanced, mindful & centered within yourself, you can relate to other people more harmoniously, without neediness, or conflict, or games. Embracing your animal nature connects you with Nature itself. Talk about win-win!

AAAAAaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh . . . what a glorious, enchanted thing it is to awaken--or hover between dreams & waking--discovering that your penis is engorged with blood, heavy, thick & demanding of attention!!! There's nothing (for me at least) quite like that special quality of the erections that happen in the middle of the night or the early morning in bed. Oh my, oh MY, feels fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine, just the lightest squeezes, tugs, tickles upon that luscious love-log . . .

Well, science says that men have a testosterone cycle, those glands in the brain & testicles cooperate with our REM sleep, to inspire your magnificent organ to erections sometime after you fall asleep & full awakening. Those who know me realize I'm not a night-owl, I'm an early bird: crash early, wake early. A kind of natural Phallic Monk who tends to do his devotions in the predawn hours.

There's no right or wrong about self-care, except hopefully discovering the limitless horizons of creative masturbatory excellence inspires men to better health habits as well. The healthier you are, the more you can enjoy masturbating. Good sleep & rest is as crucial as exercise, breathing deeply, hydration, good diet & a variety of interests. (Even if masturbating is the primary one, masturbating mindfully can enhance all sort of other activities!)

Among the wonders this practice can accomplish for you is re-connecting your human nature with Nature itself. About 50% of humanity now lives in cities, so it's a challenge to embrace your authentic animal nature & integrate this with Nature itself, the natural; world of origins! One means is to honor & celebrate the Full Moon as a Phallic Rite of fullness, feeling & savoring that exquisite male organ full of blood, warmth, vibrantly alive & tingling with sensitivity . . . ! Maybe you'll try this tonight???

Your erect penis, totally gooned & surfing the edge, is the Full Moon of the lunar cycle of your penis, so-to-speak. In fact, the actual Full Moon can overstimulate & confuse you if you don't acknolwedge it consciously. The best way I know to do this as a human male is by masturbating mindfully . . .

Actually go outside & look at the Full Moon while masturbating, or at least observe it through your window . . . FEEEEEL that fullness, total alivesness . . . that connection with everything . . .

The term "Tantra" & the concept is more popular than ever in cutting-edge sex education & activism these days. Yet Tantra continues to be misunderstood in the Western World. Having grown up in the Far East & studied various cultures & religions for a long time, as well as practicing Tantric & Taoist sexual techniques for years, I have my own take on these matters. Tantra is a word often said to mean "weaving," or a "web," as in weaving energies or the life-force.

Well, I can honestly say that what I'm feeling now (writing this blog in full arousal after an early morning session of lubricated, high-quality Mindful Masturbation, during what yogis call the "Ambrosial Hours" before sunrise) is a Tantric state. I've been weaving & refining my erotic energy into an exquisite tapestry . . . until I feel that I AM a Phallic God. My entire body feels like a giant, radiant erection: the head of my penis & the head on my shoulders are One!!! My heart shines in my chest like a radiant emerald . . . (Please see the blog for 10.7.08, below, if you wonder about that last bit!)

Please don't panic! I don't mean anything religious or metaphysical by "Phallic God." In the mythic, archetypal sense a "god" is simply a powerful aspect of human nature that often remains unexpressed, or latent. It's a part of you that you may not have fully explored & expressed. I feel every man has this potential in him--you can be a Phallic God when you claim your erotic potential. In fact, it's encoded into your human design in your DNA & only needs to be awakened, like a seed germinating & sprouting.

In the Far East, Tantra is actually a vast realm of teachings & practices to evolve your conscious awareness, & to embrace this life, this world, your body, all as sacred, instead of seeking to escape into some other world by transcending. The sexual aspect is only one facet of Tantra, which gets emphasized in the West. We're so hungry for better quality erotic pelasure, we may emphasize ejaculatory control & variety of techniques.

On a deeper level, the elaborate erotic rituals of Tantra allow the participants to "burn away" human limitations via intense ecstasy & experience their "divine" essence, as they identify with the god or goddess. You biological sex is not important, as this is a matter of internal balance, inner integrity. In the case of men masturbating mindfully, by generating high quality, prolonged p3 (pure penile pleasure) you can perform a kind of inner alchemy. Alchemy simply means refining something common into something rare & especially valuable.

So what I call masturbating mindfully--which I've been doing these Ambrosial Hours & believe me, I've never felt anything so exquisite in my lifetime, & believe it or not it still gets better & better for me every day!--is capable of awakening within YOU that Phallic God that you already are in your essence!

Mindful Masturbation for Men means just that--not something aimed at men of any particular sexuality. Indeed all men are invited to participate in the Mission of encouraging human males planet-wide to pursue masturbatory excellence! Let's be real: only other human males can really understand the powerful & incredibly intense possibilities for erotic ecstasy & personal transformation via p3.

Plus many of you, whether you consider yourself solosexual or not, understand & appreciate that guys can inspire & learn from other guys in this amazing realm, whether online or in person, much that only a fellow man with a penis can know.

My years of erotic activism, research & personal practice reveals that many men also have a special appreciation for sharing cock2cock masturbation with fellow men--that is placing your penis together with that of another man & masturbating both penises together as One. Add lubrication & the effect is spectacular! This is sometimes called frot or frottage, though that term can also refer to more generalized body contact or rubbing.

The specific joy & power of stroking my erect penis in contact with the penis of another human male is something I first experienced long ago. (For a detailed account, see the link to Yahoo group ABOVE, under the title, where I'm posting such an account today.) I've now come to realize what a formative experience this was, inspiring much of who I AM today & what I'm about.

I feel there is nothing more exquisite in every sensual sense that you can rub your lubricated erection against than the silky, hot, hard penis of a fellow man. This kind of supreme cock2cock ecstasy, when practiced mindfully--meaning fully present & embodied--is among the most powerful forms of communication & communion men can share. It's nonverbal . . . totally beyond words . . . a direct sharing of the essence of our human experience.

More on this subject later. Likewise, you'll witness plenty on the subject in the new DVD called MINDFUL MASTURBATION: BROTHERHOOD OF MEN which should be available in another month or two. Meanwhile, my erect penis is dripping precum, so I might as well use it as lube . . .

In the global realm of male masturbators communicating on the Internet, I increasingly encounter the term "solosexual." It's pretty much self-explanatory, I suppose. Only my understanding is this usually describes someone whose primary sexual preference, or orientation, is for self-pleasuring. Or it refers to masturbation itself, in contrast with other forms of erotic behavior.

(If you're familiar with how I write this blog, perhaps you can FEEL the erotic charge now, as I write it with my penis as much as my fingers, pausing regularly to squeeze, tug, tickle, pull on the thick, warm shaft between my legs, massage the plush, velvety mushroom head, pinch my nips, fondle my balls, caress my inner thighs, tug my ears & yes, breeeathe, keep relaxxxed . . . my solosexual enjoyment suffusing these words . . .)

How wonderful to proudly claim masturbating as your primary erotic fulfilment!!! There's nothing "anti-social" about frequently masturbating, as devoted, guilt-free, shameless masturbators tend to be better-adjusted, happier, more balanced men than most, Again, this need not be considered an either/or proposition.

Let's face reality--partnered sex is often fraught with complications, sometimes the limitations of communicating with a partner, obtaining cooperation, render it more frustrating than rewarding. I'm not saying masturbating is better than any other form of erotic enjoyment. However I DO insist that solosexuality is not lesser. In fact is often IS far more rewarding!

Plus, if pleasuring yourself is your primary focus for erotic enjoyment, not only MORE POWER TO YOU! but also, it need never be lonely! Loving yourself, you're in the best of company. Likewise, many men of solosexual orientation or preference do enjoy sharing masturbatory pleasure with other guys: online, via webcam, in person actually witnessing one another, even mutually masturbating, or doing so in groups of Phallic Brothers.

Thus to proudly call yourself solosexual simply means pleasuring yourself is of primary important to you--it doesn't limit your enjoyment of other pleasures. On the contrary . . .

Masturbating mindfully (as I practice every day!) is a worthwhile, honorable, healthy pursuit simply because it feels so incredibly good--for its own sake! Plus for many men, it's a major breakthrough in the erotic sense to fully focus exclusively on yourself--your own body, your actual immediate sensations. Sex with a partner can be wonderful, yet often your attention is split. Masturbating to porn, erotic imagery or fantasy, to some extent inevitably takes you out-of-body & into your mind. Ironically it can actually be limiting to your sensations!

Pursued with skill & diligence, Mindful Masturbation allows you to become present in the moment, fully embodied NOW, as your mental processes recede & your blissful sensations override thinking. Thought-forms evaporate as the mind dissolves into pure BEING. Only when you begin tasting these extraordinary levels of erotic pleasure can you understand the equation: Mindful = Mindless. Paying full attention while masturbating expands your awareness into that mysterious, timeless realm of the Eternal Now, apart from the past & future.

You begin the process of reclaiming your ancestral animal nature, of reconciling your human Nature with Nature itself. Until pleasuring yourself also becomes a process of loving yourself, however, this may remain no more than self-gratification. Yet, in the high erotic states that become available with genuinely Mindful Masturbation, your ego also dissolves as you surrender to the limitless possibilities . . .

In Yoga & meditation you learn about the "chakras," those 7 energy centers of the torso from the root (base of the spine) to the crown (top of your head). This concept from ancient East Indian teachings, in the West became associated with the spectrum of 7 colors in ascending order: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo & violet. It's a useful model of how the body/mind functions.

Rather than get lost in details of the system, I like to view this as a rainbow of wholeness, reflecting a fully energized, vibrantly healthy, totally alive torso, from anus upward. Plus something always useful to remember is that smack-dab in the middle is YOUR HEART, associated with GREEN, the color of living, growing plants.

Green is the color of a sustainable civilization for the New Millennium. Plus it feels so fabulous beyond words, when you lose yourself in p3, pure penile pleasure for the purpose of finding your soul! Let that emerald light of loving yourself shine from your chest!!!

Recently someone questioned me about writing these blogs in full arousal (as I'm doing now, the big delicious erection jutting from bewteen my thighs emanating clear drops of precum from the tingling tip each time I slowly, mindfully "milk" the length of the shaft with a series of gentle, progressive squeezes along the length!) & he asked a good question! "Is it mindful to be writing, composing verbally at the keyboard while masturbating?" Not entirely! Good point.

In fact, any time you are more in your mind than in your body during arousal, you're not experiencing quite the depth & intensity of ecstatic trance possible with fully embodied presence. This means, like it or not, you cannot totally merge into that sense of connection with all things, of Oneness with Nature or Source, while employing porn, erotica or fantasy for arousal. The reason is that you are mostly in your mind & not so much in your body. Many men are so habituated, even imprinted with using porn & online stimulus, that this may not be welcome news. Yet you may be missing experiences many times richer & more powerful.

Please don't misunderstand--there's nothing wrong with using erotic stimulus. Only it's many times more powerful when you keep the focus on your own body, your immediate actual sensations, & what's actually happening. Plus this mindfulness can extend to the presence of a partner or partners. As I show in great, explicit detail with the upcoming DVD called MINDFUL MASTURBATION: BROTHERHOOD OF MEN, while masturbating with other men, the challenge of mindfulness can be shared.

It's not an either/or issue, actually. Though mostly I masturbate without viewing imagery or fantasizing, such stimulus is healthy fuel for arousal, so long as it's not ALL you do, or a total dependency.

Similarly, the issue of masturbating mindfully with fellow men is not really a matter of sexuality, of dealing with labels such as "hetero, bi-, or straight." Human males are highly sexual, highly visual creatures. My many years studying these subject suggest that a majority of men are curious about other men's bodies. Apart from the conditioning of homophobia, I feel most men experience arousal observing other men masturbating.

Many men, regardless of other sexual relationships, can enjoy & benefit from masturbating with other men in a safe, encouraging, empowering context. This is what the Male Mystery School I am creating is about. Let's face it: "Like attracts like," that's the Law of Attraction we've been hearing so much about lately. Many men long for such experience & male bonding.

All male masturbation is good (so long as it doesn't reinforce guilt or shame) only when you begin practicing mindfully & open your mind & heart to sharing this with fellow men, you may experience levels of bliss you never knew existed!!! No kidding . . .

I'm standing naked in front of the tall wardrobe mirror in my upstairs bedroom, lubed up, fully aroused. One hand at play in front, the other behind, I pause & lift my face. I gaze into my own wide blue eyes. "I love you, Bruce," I say aloud. "I really, REALLY love you! I love you, Bruce!" It's a kind of self-affirming mantra that challenges the vestiges of poor self-esteem I still harbor to this day. After saying this for a while, noticing the slight discomfort it causes me now & then, I resume masturbating mindfully, as a CD of drumming & trance-droning continues on the stereo downstairs.

CAN YOU DO THIS WITH ME? Let me offer the challenge! Quite seriously, almost all our suffering & struggle can be traced ultimately to issues of poor self-esteem. From my early teens, until my early 40s, I felt unattractive, too skinny, not handsome enough. How ludicrous! It's all a matter of individual taste. My self-esteem has improved radically in the last 13 years . . . more & more folks seem to find me attractive . . . only, again, that's just a matter of individual taste. The energy vibe I put out is so different now!

PLEASE ACCEPT THIS CHALLENGE: Do as I'm doing--stand naked before a full-length mirror, inspect every part of your body & work on accepting it all as beautiful & perfect precisely as it is! (This doesn't mean you cannot work to make changes you'd like!) Strive diligently to love yourself unconditionally as you are. That's where it all starts to come together. Your power is in loving yourself NOW.

GAZE DIRECTLY INTO YOUR OWN EYES: Say, "I love you _____ (say your name, which gets to that little boy inside you!), I really REALLY love you! I love you ____ !" And so on; you get the idea. Pay attention to any discomfort or uneasiness this may bring up. Or maybe you love yourself pretty well already? Most of us need a lot of work on this.

THEN . . . once you've broken that ice, begin making love with yourself, not just going for the penis. Caress yourself all over, admire yourself, praise yourself, & as you become aroused, keep focus on masturbating mindfully as a process of loving yourself better & better & better, arouse your entire body, no rush, pay full attention . . .

. . .see how my left hand goes behind, gently circling, probing, caressing my rosebud, while in front my fingers glide along that lubicated shaft; that lubricated fingertip at my backside begins to push inward . . . beyond words . . .

This morning I've been practicing in my most mindful manner. After lighting a candle, following a workout, Yoga & meditation, breathing & keeping relaxxxed, using plenty of lube, I've kept focused totally on myself. Mindful of my own body, my immediate sensations of ecstatic awareness in the present moment--NOW.

Part of my pratice of masturbating mindfully is what I call "danceturbation," & I enjoy putting on a CD of drumming, trance or Middle Eastern dance music. I also call this masturbating in motion & it's incredibly powerful! Only this early morning it's in silence other than my belly-breathing, my heart beating in my ears, the soft slick sounds of my fingers gliding along my glistening erection, plucking delicately at the swollen mushroom-head, tugging my fuzzy balls, pinching my nipples, feeling my ears, arms, caressing my inner thighs . . . beyond words . . .

Regarding the reflection of my aroused body in the full-length mirror, I smile at myself, & the glory of my human nakedness, my jutting, bobbing erection, my bearded face & gleaming eyes, reinforces my arousal.

This reminds me of how I begin my Male Mystery School events of teaching Phallic Brotherhood: After we get acquainted & establish trust clothed, I extend the invitation for all of the men to undress. Naked & face-to-face I go before each man in turn, place my hands on his shoulders & gaze deeply into his eyes. "You are beautiful just as you are," I say, "you are perfect just as you are! I see in you the essence of all other men, including myself." I then hug him body-to-body & do the same with each man in turn. Then each man is invited to do the same with every other man present.

You may wish to try such a mutual blessing with any other man you are going to masturbate with, next time you have the opportunity. This establishes that genuine Phallic Brotherhood. It makes all the difference in the world!

More than ever, I feel a major key to bringing genuine peace to our beloved Planet Earth is to encourage human males to get over their conditioned fear of other men. Not only this, men must be encouraged to love themselves far better. On all levels, including the physical & erotic . . . + men of all sexualities who have open minds & hearts can benefit from sharing masturbatory pleasure with fellow men in Phallic Brotherhood.

What I consider far more unrealistic is that we can create a better future, if human males, the primary source of the aggressive & destrutive behavior now endangering the Earth, do not evolve rapidly. Of course, all of humanity is in thsi together, we ALL need to reconcile human nature with Nature itself! However human males are often insecure, volatile, & easily-threatened. Often overly reactive. There's a short-cut, a quantum leap in personal growth for men, & I'm offering it here!

This is a personal & spiritual challenge of bringing body & mind, genitals & heart, matter & spirit back together . . . & the best way I know of doing this is not by thinking about it, by conscious effort or struggle . . . it really only happens via total surrender to erotic ecstasy that you male human body is capable of. When you retrain yourself to experinec prolonged, high-quality erotic trance, many of your old inadequacies & self-esteem issues begin to dissolve. This requires breaking your old patterns of behavior to explore new territory & realize the limitless horizons of p3, that can light up all opf you 50-70 trillion cells with indescribably bliss.

In the opening slates for the new DVD "Mindful Masturbation: Brotherhood of Men" I wrote: "Since ancient times, men have revered the phallus as a source of abundance, masculine creative energy, and ecstatic pleasure. Regardless of sexuality, whether partnered, married or single, most men love masturbating. Sharing this practice with other men can help you to become happier, more balanced and more present in your human body. Now is the time to reclaim a place of honor for sharing masturbation as a natural, healthy and spiritual practice. This benefits you, all of humanity, and the Earth."

The men starring in this new DVD demonstrate with exemplary lack of inhibition, open hearts & generous spirits, how men can witness one another masturbating, actively witness by masturbating together, enjoy mindful mutual masturbation, & group masturbatory mindfulness in Phallic Brotherhood. (I'm lubed-up & enjoying myself beyond words even now . . . & it's no fantasy; it's real!)

I'm manifesting the process of creating a series of DVDs to encourage masturbatory excellence among men worldwide, by engaging what folks call Law of Attraction. That is, "Like attracts like," + "Whatever you focus your attention on you get, no exceptions!"

The trick is NOT to focus on what you don't want, or you keep getting that. Instead, get clear on what you don't want, but focus your attention on what you WANT. I focus on Phallic Brotherhood; encouraging men to constantly refine masturbatory skills; to learn by sharing masturbatory ecstasy with fellow men. Law of Attraction doesn't work just by thinking positively--you need to FEEL good, & learn to trust intuition, taking inspired action. (That, or course, is why I write my blog in full arousal . . .) You let go & allow the Universe to bring what you ask for, or something even better.

So I sent out the vibes, the invitations, & the Universe answered in the form of some beautiful men who graciously, generously & courageously agreed to appear in further DVDs to foster Mindful Masturbation. What's manifested is better than I could ahve imagined!!!

In an earlier blog entry (9.3.08) I introduced David & Peter. Now I'd like to introduce another wonderful man involved: Dr. Thom. Indeed, he's an M.D., & much else, as well as an experienced, skilled & dedicated masturbator. So he's also highly qualified as a consultant on the medical & psychological benefits of masturbating mindfully. In some of the brief interview clips, you'll also hear Dr. Thom discussing the relation of consciousness & quantum physics to MM4M. He's an amazing fellow on many levels . . .& I know you'll enjoying knowing him better also when the new DVDs are avilable.

Honestly, I did not select men for their looks or endowment--it's the energy they brought to the project that matters most, & that you see & feel--these guys are smart, good-hearted, shameless, enthusiastic, & brave. They're also handsome, nicely-built & have gorgeous penises! Still, I feel any man who loves his penis without reserve is totally gorgeous.

We're at a point of balance, as the Earth & Sun are at an alignment meaning the day & night are of equal length, & the cycle now turns inward. As a human male, the enjoyment, stimulation & celebration of your penis, of the limitless erotic ecstasy it can provide, is a means of balancing yourself & engineering your experience of living in a happy & healthy direction. Allow that p3, pure penile pleasure, to radiate through your entire body, to light up every cell & illumine your BEING. This is what your miraculous, intricate, mysterious human body is designed for!

In fact, most humans suffer from overactive minds. We tend to live in our head, in our thoughts, telling ourselves stories. We are basically out-of-body most of the time! A challenge & the most worthwhile spiritual focus is to seek full embodiment, to be fully present in your body, in the here & the NOW! So when your penis stirs, thickens, warms, swells, lifts into erection--that much LESS blood circulates to the rest of your body including your brain! As your pleasure increases, allow your inner peace to deepen . . .

Thus masturbating mindfully may serve as a source of wisdom & balance in many ways: you enjoy your life & yourself more fully, generating optimum brain chemicals & hormones; you cultivate the inner awareness of bliss, aware that happiness arises from within you. Also by pleasuring yourself more creatively & effectively, you connect your genitals with your brain through your heart.

Loving yourself is the key. That's the place of balance, & it corresponds also with your physical heart. In western Yoga we color the chakras of energy centers of the body in a rainbow spectrum rising from red at the root to white at the crown. Significantly, the heart is colored green, which is the color of the sustainable future for our planet.

So as you are celebrating the limitless bliss your penis provides (something I'm certainly doing this moment!) you also align yourself with the balance of this moment, loving yourself better & better = the only sustainable option!

Early this AM I woke shortly after 4:00 in bed with a nice morning erection. I decided to lube up & treat myself to the full, lubricated, breathing deeply, relaxed, yet intense & creative style of session: that's what I call really masturbating mindfully!

So I switched a lamp on low, threw back the covers & got a small blue tube of water-based lube along with the spray bottle of H2O. Naked, thighs wide, began my breathing, applied the clear, slick lubrication & a spritz or 2 of the water. WOW-EEEEE, did I ever ascend smoothly, quickly into fully-charged erotic embodiment!?! Within a few minutes of indescribable p3 (pure penile pLeasure) my entire body seemed like a single giant, engorged, infinitely-sensitive, glorious erect penis!!! This is what I mean by becoming a Phallic God!

Any man who decides to break his old habits, retrain himself to masturbte more mindfully, can experinece this in his own unique, individual way. Only I do feel it bring us into a certain common ground we human males share. Encoded deep within your XY design, within the fearful symmetry of your body, in your cells, in your ancetral DNA lies this fantastic potential awaiting awakening, arousal, unleashing into experiential reality . . .

Even I, the man some call a "masturbation guru," can slip into habitual patterns. I can backslide into settling for a more mundane style of masturbating. There's nothing totally wrong withe this--so long as I can forgive myself! ;-)

MY CONFESSION: Indeed, I sometimes backslide into sitting here at the keyboard & monitor with my penis out & UP, stimulating myself dry, while enjoying hot images of you guys naked, stroking & so on, (which is not so bad to do sometimes, so long as you don't use a lot of assertive rubbing, which can de-sensitize your penis & I tend to use subtler, delicate touches of tickling, tugging, rubbing gently) partly for the convenience of no sticky or greasy fingers on the keys.

Only this morning's incredible, ineffable session reminded me of how qualitatively superior full lubing really is, as our magnificent masculine organs are designed for this, as in orifices or mouths moist with natural body fluids . . . or lubrication applied for prolonged, intense, high-quality masturbation. It's probably quantitatively superior to masturbate with lube also, as it seems you stimulate ALL of the pleasure receptors of your penis more totallly, effectively. & limitless bliss becomes not only possible, but real.

Whether you're reading this today (9.22.08) or later, may you allow awareness of the universe we live in--today's transit of Autumnal Equinox is a reminder--to enhance your life within you & without you. May your p3 help you to reconcile your human nature with Nature itself!!!

Our planetary civilization is undergoing a much-needed meltdown as we shift from the old, unsustainable paradigms of fear, limitations & intolerance towards a New Earth of Brotherly Love & increasing harmony.

*Note: habeeair is a dear friend of mine, a most beautiful man, & among the most amazingly mindful masturbators I know of on Planet Earth.

Here, in a larger format than ever before, you see the cover art created for the first of the new DVDs by my friend Stevee Postman. He's the finest artist of computer-generated imagery that I know. Stevee's got a unique gift for creating specific, compelling images that convey direct experiences beyond words, probably because he's been there!

At any rate, again I'm extremely honored to have Stevee's cover art as part of the production. This time I also feel the product itself will prove many times more beautiful & effective in inspiring men of Planet Earth to pursue masturbatory excellence.

This time I've got total artistic control also, in that the lighting is more natural; as much as possible we filmed outdoors; + I had the help of a group of wonderful & beautiful men who are all superb, exemplary masturbators. They brought such fine energy to the project. Though I stand by the value of the teaching in the original MM4M DVD, these new ones cover the same basics with the help of other men, yet also take it into new territory.

For the introductory slates of "The Power of Mindful Masturbation" I wrote: "Masturbating mindfully is a path to greater pleasure and wholeness. This practice helps you to reconcile your human nature with Nature itself. As flowers are the sex organs of plants, so our genitals are the beautiful flowering of the human body, to be honored and admired as such. Cultivating your erotic energy is soemthing like tending a garden. To pleasure yourself mindfully is to realize that you live in Paradise."

(I'm doing that very thing NOW, fully aroused, my body virtually vibrating with the hum of ongoing bliss coursing along my spine from the root to the crown of my head & causing my heart to soar . . . !)

Do you love your penis unconditionally? Do you feel totally One with all of its limitless possibilities for providing bliss to you? Do you fully embrace your penis as the legitimate, honorable & sacred core of your masculine identity?

Possibly so--I hope so. However, if the answer you give is a sincere & total YES! then I'd consider you far more evolved personally, erotically & spiritually than 95% of the human male population of this planet! Don't get me wrong, as I'm not judging anyone or anything as inferior--I definitely feel all male masturbation of every variety is good, so long as it's not bound up in reinforcing guilt or shame.

Still, having observed men of many kinds masturbating online for 13 years now, I must say that I feel it's a natural, healthy thing & as necessary to physical & mental health as breathing properly, good H2O, excellent diet, exercise, rest & varied mental stimulation. Only I also observe that the vast majority of human males masturbate obsessively, yet not very creatively. From the "edging," the orgasms & ejaculations I observe, it appears to me that a great many male masturbators still derive a relatively "shallow" level of satisfaction from their habit. It can take you a lot higher & deeper.

I've learned that what I call Mindful Masturbation, or other more varied, creative, conscious forms of male self-pleasuring seem to provide far deeper, more lasting, profoundly life-enhancing reward. These practices can gift the practitioner with a serene, energized charge that penetrates to the marrow of his bones & from there re-radiates like the ongoing glow of a Phallic God. Others feel this, even see it. This changes your vibe, your life!

As I said, I'm not judging anyone, simply observing that with some training & breaking of old habits to explore new territory, most men can discover whole new levels of ecstasy & expanding erotic awareness than ever before. I'd say 5% or less, so far have caught this evolutionary wave, only it's increasing & increasing . . .

Hope you're catching this evolutionary wave with the growing global Phallic Brotherhood of Men! Why not join this New Erotic Revolution of male masturbatory excellence?

As the Moon waxes towards the full illumination of its disk, this reminds me of the incessant cycle of your penis & mine, from flaccidly soft to raging rock-hard full erection. (Mine's thick, stiff & hot in my hand as I'm composing this blog!) As I mention in my post below of 9.9.08, when you examine it closely & look deeply, your penis is always expanding or contracting, even by the tiniest increments. It's actually sizeless because it's never precisely the same size moment-to-moment. In reality there are always a few of those blood cells that fill the inner chambers of the shaft & head, slipping into or from the whole magnificent organ.

Though I seek not to get too metaphysical or overtly spiritual in this blog, one of my favorite masturbation meditations considers your body as a solar system. IMAGINE: Your heart is the central Sun, beating steady in your chest & illuminating everything, as your heart pumps blood to your whole body; your penis is the Moon, forever waxing & waning between soft & hard in an endless cycle of phases. All of it is good, when you embrace your erotic, animal nature as a human male.

Further, the phases of the Moon undeniably have a strong influence all through Nature, from the releasing of sperm in the coral of ocean reefs, to the germination of plants sprouting in the soil, all sorts of cycles have a sort of tidal quality influenced by the Moon. Similarly human nature--as police-logs & ER records conifrm--is powerfully affected by the lunar cycles. We all tend to get stimulated by the waxing toward Full Moon, even agitated or sleepless in some cases. The New Moon is a time to return within, to inner stillness & quiet. Relax, rest, regenerate--to enjoy even more fully your masturbatory bliss.

However the human male cycle of penile erection tends to be daily, sometimes cycling many times in a day between softer & harder states--ALL GOOD! So here we have one of those wonderful ways of reconciling our human nature with Nature itself. Keep in mind that the wondrous sensations your penis provides you--masturbating solo, with a buddy, or in a group of Phallic Brothers--also connects you with this dynamic energy of the Moon! It connects you with the universe we are all part of.

Here it IS! The sign you've been waiting for from the universe! This indicates that your obsession with your penis, with masturbating, with the penises of your fellow men & your desire to masturbate with those men is good, natural, healthy, even sacred!

Above you see the logo that signifies "Phallic Brotherhood" among men of the Earth. This is not an abstract, symbolic, religious or metaphysical fraternity. This is the sign of the human male who is proud of his penis, who shamelessly celebrates the limitless pleasure his erection can provide, & who is open to sharing masturbatory ecstasy with his Phallic Brothers.

Does this sound like YOU? If so, here is a sign for you to embrace, as you cultivate your own masturbaory excellence & you share this with your fellow men. The sign will soon be available to order on t-shirts & mugs, & can be used as a nonverbal signal to your Brothers in Penile Passion that you align yourself with all of the above. You can reproduce it on a card, like a business card without any text, to use as a nonverbal sign.

The "serpent biting his own tail" indicates self-reference: by touching yourself you increase your pleasure, expand your awareness, love yourself better & better. You become more integral, happier & whole. The serpent is also an ancient symbol of wisdom & life-force, so by biting or swallowing its own tail this grows ever-stronger. The serpent encloses an egg-shaped image of Planet Earth, indicating the global scope of our New Erotic Revolution. We are hatching out a NEW Earth, one that reconciles human nature with Nature itself.

Last but not least, the curious glyph in the center comes from a Renaissance man named Dr. Dee, who served as an astrologer to Queen Elizabeth 1. Dee created this glyph that combines the essence of all letters & numbers, planetary & zodiac signs in a single form, as a kind of universal "embryo," or monad. A point of origin. It's all you need. Like love.

So from this "seed," may we celebrate our male human bodies, sharing our p3 or pure penile pleasure, & our Phallic Brotherhood of Men!

Well, yes, this lovely work of Nature's Finest Art sticking up from the nest of brown pubic hairs between my legs--the sturdy, pale shaft chased with vivid veins, the ruddy texture of the swollen glans indicating it's rich endowment with pleasure-receptor nerves--CAN be measured . . . literally . . . at the moment!

When asked, I know I really ought to say it's measureless. Sure, it measures about 7.5 inches fully erect, though it can actually swell to 8+ during extremely strong arousal. Only, if you really think about it & look at the physiology, biology & physics of male arousal, your penis is literally NEVER EXACTLY THE SAME SIZE moment-to-moment. It's like saying the Moon is Full, or the Moon is New. In what phase of its cycle is the Moon? In the astronomical sense we define those moments as specified seconds--however it's always, in reality an-ever changing continuum. To say what it IS you merely generalize.

Look at your penis right now: whether it's totally flaccid, a bit tumescent, rather erect or a raging boner, examined extremely closely on the organic, cellular & molecular levels, it's never precisely the exact same size, not EVER! To this you may sa, "So? I wish mine was ____." Fill in the blank, or maybe not. Instead, I suggest you examine yours really REALLY closely, get absorbed in masturbating . . . & come back & finish reading this later!

Of course the real issue here is self-esteem as we human males tend to invest far too much concern & even anxiety over whether or not our penis is big enough? Is it TOO big? (Most probably not too many feel this way, yet there are guys!) Or should it be intact? Should it be circumcised? Should it be GREEN? (Maybe a penis often looks better on the other side of the fence?) In terms of photography most of us have learned how amazingly crucial perspective is: anywhere closer to your penis than the rest of you, it looks a lot bigger in photos. We like that, right?

Some guys think mine's huge. Others, may not be so impressed. Should I really focus on the opinions of others? I'm not totally immune to flattery, yet what does that really mean? What matters about my penis is how I feel about it. What matters about yours is how you feel about it. Like me, you need to love your penis precisely the way it IS. What matters most of all is the quality of the pleasure we give ourselves & we share in Phallic Brotherhood.

As human males, we're all equipped with these astoundingly, highly-evolved male organs, the largest proportional to our body size of any primate, & connected directly to an incomprehensibly complex 100-billion-neuron brain.

Love it as it IS! It's sizeless, it's miraculous, it's YOURS! To the extent you love it as it is, it's absolutley perfect. Just like YOU.

Though masturbation plays a central role in my daily life, I live a full life of diverse activities & experiences, all of which are enhanced by my ongoing practice of mindful self-pleasuring. (For example, right now I'm periodically stimulating that big velvety mushroom head, thick upright shaft, fuzzy balls between my legs + various other body parts as I compose this blog.) Among my great joys recently is that I've resumed oil painting after 20 years of focus on writing, masturbation research, & partnership.

Now they all converge & every aspect of my life directly relates to all the others! As Tom said, "Instead of the fig leaf on Adam, Adam is on the fig leaf." Yup. It's all part of a series showing the primordial reality of humans as natural animals. Your male human body IS the Garden of Paradise, to the extent that you can accept & love yourself exactly as you are. Paradise is just being your true self, claiming your innate gifts, purely being YOU.

There are all those stories--but in fact, there's really only one tree in this garden of your body: the Tree of Life that stands up proudly from between your legs when you are aroused. This Tree of Life rewards you with limitless amounts of erotic ecstasy, a sense of being totally alive, & a way of reconciling your human nature with Nature itself. With the Source of all life. I really mean nothing metaphysical or religious by any of this. Sometimes it's not at all what you were told before. "Good & evil" are dualities, concepts in your mind, & the finer sensations your penis provides can return you to an embodied nonduality, profound connectedness, unity with all of existence. Still, those old stories always contain some nugget of direct, actual significance you can experience.

This one's actually real simple: No one is born in sin. We're all born innocent, pure & good. All you need to do to reclaim your birth-right is get back to the Garden. Get naked, shameless; taste the infinitely delicious fruit of prolonged, high-quality masculine arousal! (That's what I'm doing now--YUMMY!--a crystal droplet of precum dissolving on my tongue . . .) Love yourself by masturbating mindfully & the rest follows . . .

Above you can see 2 of the beautiful men who appear in the upcoming DVDs THE POWER OF MINDFUL MASTURBATION, & MINDFUL MASTURBATION: BROTHERHOOD OF MEN. As I've said before, I did not choose these guys for their looks--believe it or not! Really the energy & enthusiasim, the dedication they bring to the project is what matters most. Plus the fact that these guys are shameless, artful & totally dedicated masturbators.

They're excellent exemplars of how healthy, beneficial & life-enhancing a fun-loving, creative, wholesome practice of masturbating mindfully can be for a man! They're unashamed of their nakedness, which is another signifier of that ideal state of living in Paradise. By that I mean, life can be blissful when you get in touch with your animal nature & accept that your body is a natural part of Nature itself. This is the state in which you feel totally alive!

It's what your body is designed for (in fact, the kind of aroused, fantastic sensations I'm enjoying this very moment composing this blog & enjoying these guys all over again). I feel such honor & privilege working on the footage these beautiful men have allowed us to create . . . & believe me, their enjoyment & enthusiasm radiates from the images directly into YOUR body. They teach by example, & by who & what they are.

By definition "Paradise" generally refers to a place of ideal beauty or loveliness, a state of delight; a place or condition of perfect happiness; where you find everything you need for your interest. You may find that, in fact, Paradise is no farther from you than between your legs! It's within easy reach.

This is all about attitude, about where you choose to place your attention. Why settle for anything less than the finest pleasure you can provide for yourself??? With this kind of attitude, living only gets better & better. I'm living proof & so are these guys!

Among the most powerful teachings recently is Law of Attraction. This profound principle is not always understood, because it's not about just attracting the "things" you want by thinking positively. (Indeed, FEELING happy, feeling joyful & feeling gratitude, are keys, just as I feel immense gratitude for the big thick penis now reaching from between my legs for the space bar of this keyboard; I'm joyful for how my brain & genitals meet halfway in my heart; happy about being a shamless male masturbator!) Anyway, the essence is "like attracts like." The vibes you put out are also what you get.

One aspect of Law of Attraction you won't find in most spiritual teachings on the subject is that, admit it or not, most men feel at least some attraction to their fellow men. Most men are curious about & turned on by the bodies of other men & fascinated by the penises of their Phallic Brothers in particular. Law of Attraction works this way, & essentially means that the kind of energy you are putting our NOW is the kind of energy you are receiving NOW. (Can you FEEL my erection throbbing now?! I sure do . . .) More like instant karma, than the traditional idea of cause & effect.

In fact, Mindful Masturbation is a way to use Law of Attraction as a human male in order to "Be happy now." That is the beginning of also attracting into your life everything good that you can possibly want. As you practice more conscious, creative & artful self-pleasuring, you discover that there is no limit to how much erotic ecstasy you can experience . . . + the more skilled you become, the more intensely you enjoy it, the more you want & the more you can have. It's win-win, if anything is!

Literally, your penis "learns" to provide you ever-increasing levels of bliss--what I call p3 or pure penile pleasure--just as the fingers & hands of an artist, a musician or typist continue learning with practice. This only comes about when you move beyond fantasy & reliance on stimulating imagery. When you surrender to being fully present with your penis, in your body, here & now. Don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against porn or fantasy. Still if you don't learn to get off on just yourself, or a fellow man or men who are actually with you, you'll miss the heights & depths to which masturbating mindfully can take your soul.

The core of Law of Attraction is loving yourself, on all levels, including the solosexual center of your masculine being & embodiment. By loving yourself better & better as you pursue excellence in masturbatory skills, all other issues begin to resolve themselves & fall away. Don't give energy to what you don't want, or you'll keep getting it.

Place your full attention on your own body, your penis & the limitless pleasure it can provide, as a process of loving yourself better & better . . . the rest will follow.

In the beautiful hills where I live, we had almost a year of severe drought. Recently a tropical storm blew in from the Gulf of Mexico showering inches of rainfall & since then we've had some wonderful rainy days & nights. Even native vegetation was stressed and dying, wild animals starved for forage; now everything has changed. The woods are lush and green, flowers blooming like a rainbow, butterflies flapping all over the place.

For the first 40+ years of my life, I suffered a drought of erotic deprivation. Though I loved masturbating & did so regularly, my practice lacked something. It never satisfied me deeply enough. Shortly before meeting the wonderful life partner I live with today, I began learning how to sustain & prolong my arousal, how to employ a wide variety of strokes & caresses to my entire body, not just my genitals. Perhaps most crucial, I learned to keep breathing deeply & stay relaxed during arousal. It's a matter of quality of pleasure.

In the course of my life, this was like the recent cloudbursts & periodic rainfall that have transformed my current environment from parched & struggling, to refreshed, renewed, regenerated. When I began masturbating more mindfully, simply paying full attention & pleasuring myself more creatively, I discovered that the ecstasy seems to sink deep into the marrow of my bones. A kind of peaceful energy then emanates from the core of my being, as if my batteries are fully charged. It's not just gratification--it's loving myself!

(Yes, I'm writing this blog as usual, fully aroused: the rosy mushroom head of my erection gleams with lubrication, broadcasting waves of blissful intensity through my entire body even when I merely glance at it! Gliding fingertips lightly feels almost unbearably good, & to pinch & rub that tender fold of frenulum at the underside of the glans: beyond words!!!)

I've been observing how men of the planet are now masturbating online, sharing photos & videos, which is wonderful. All male masturbation is great, so long as it's not reinforcing shame or self-loathing. Still, what's missing in a lot of what I see is the genuine excellence, the creativity & variety that can render male self-pleasuring not only rewarding but transformational. What's often missing is the genuine self-love.

More than ever I'm convinced that a potential for Phallic Brotherhood is encoded into our ancestral DNA. It really is like cultivating a garden in which the beautiful blossoms are the penises of your fellow men.

By masturbating mindfully, you recover this sense of how powerful & profound an organ your penis is. It's not a judgment to note that the men of the planet still need a lot of help & encouragment in this regard. In fact, what could be more fun & more pleasurable than practicing this, solo, with a buddy, or in groups of men--for the benefit of all???

I feel so profoundly honored & humbled by the support I've received from the online world of male masturbators in creating the new MM4M DVDs. (Well, I'm also aroused at the present moment, practicing what I coach, periodically caressing my naked body, my big firm erection here at my desk, my balls, my nips, aaahh . . . ) You can see in the photo above, the genuine warmth of the Phallic Brotherhood that converged from around the world for the ecstatic creative process!

While I don't intend to sound too New Agey or "woo-woo," it really feels as if the universe intends this, for I simply cast out a net of loving energy into the Internet. In fact, I called upon some years of networking, both online & in-person. The "fishes" I caught turned out to be some of the finest male masturbators I know of. Each man in his own way exemplifies the kind of masturbatory excellence, lack of shame, devotion to self-pleasuring & open heartedness that I associate with masturbating mindfully. There's no formula.

Did masturbating mindfully make these men the way they are? Or are they the kind of men who simply "get it" when I share on this subject so close to my heart & so firmly anchored between my legs? I cannot say--probably both! At any rate this wonderful group of extraordinary men believe enough in me & my Mission to come together (one man actually came all the way from South America!) & to participate. To them, I'm grateful beyond words. They are men of immeasurable goodness & courage.

I've never seen such beautiful footage of male masturbation as that I've been editing in my new iMac computer . . . in which it's the energy that the men emanate, as much as what they're doing & how they look, that you will enjoy. It will inspire you & is worth emulating, as they're also great teachers of male masturbation. This is something we only learn by example, by practicing it, not by talking about it. Once these 2 new DVDs are released, hopefully in the next few months, some may accuse me of selecting these men for their physical beauty.

Not so! Though they are handsome, gorgeous men with great bodies & beautiful penises, it was their personal energy + their generous willingness to be recorded practicing Mindful Masturbation, solo, mutually & in a group setting, that determined who I selected. I'll share more on the process of creating the new DVDs & updates on the progress toward their release in the coming weeks.

I'm enjoying the profoundly sensual, blissful experience (between rounds of tapping these keys) of tenderly cupping & manipulating my balls, as well as firmly squeezing the thick, stiff shaft of my erect penis, sliding the outer shaft skin over that inner firmness, & delicately tweaking the big pink mushroom head with fingertips, brushing my inner thighs, pinching my nipples, curling my toes, stretching my arms, while my erection twitches & surges from between my legs as I do anal breathing . . . AAAAAHHH!!!

As my Mission of fostering masturbatory excellence among men of the planet unfolds & expands, I'm communicating more & more with fellow masturbators online. On Yahoo IM my ID is "bgrether07". So if you want to try, you might catch me on my webcam there. Sometimes guys ask me if I spend all my free time masturbating--well, not exactly, still I do it quite a bit every day. I've got a full life of varied activities. My feeling is that masturbating mindfully enhances all of them. It keeps me charged with happy, serene energy, as a pretty well-balanced man.

Some guys speak of edging--that is masturbating along the edge for a longer time without ejaculating--as an addiction. Well, to me the latter word often has somewhat negative connotations; yet I do consider masturbating a LOT as an adult human male, to be a healthy obsession. It's really what your body is designed for: the penis & brain to be kept directly connected through your HEART! This generates a superb balance of brain chemicals & hormones, enhancing your health, happiness & well-being! Loving yourself is where loving others begins.

Plus I've learned that most men are still masturbating in somewhat habitual, repetitive, limited ways: staying most of the time in one position, using one hand, with at most a few different strokes. My years of practicing Mindful Masturbation have taught me that, if this sounds familiar, you can re-train yourself & experience many times more pleasure while masturbating. You can open the doors, basically just by learning to do continuous belly-breathing while masturbating; keep relaxed rather than tensing up; & use a variety of strokes, as well as continuing to change positions.

I've mentioned in earlier blogs, that a young boy whose parents or guardians do not inhibit him from playing with himself, may do so incessantly, more or less all the time. Only during puberty a lot of guys get stuck in a "jack-off" routine. Once an adult human male starts breaking out of his masturbatory habits into the limitless horizons of masturbating mindfully . . . it keeps getting better & better. The more skilled you become, the more you want to explore & continue enjoying this . . .

It's actually an endless adventure, guys. An adventure you can share with your fellow men in Phallic Brotherhood. So--are you doing it NOW? (I sure am!) If not, there's no time like the present--in fact, there's not time BUT the present!

If you ever observe a small boy of sexually-enlightened parents who never discourage him from playing with himself, even when others might notice, you'll see that such a child has his hands in his pants or between his legs a great deal of the time. For years I've maintained that arousal is the default state of the penis--anything else is the inhibition of erection due to stress or distraction. Not that you need to have a full erection all the time. Only it's natural to feel aroused & to stimulate your penis frequently when you are a happy, healthy adult male living in the present moment. Be happy now.

(I'm doing it now, while I write this . . . man-oh-man, somehow it still just gets better & better with daily practice . . . like my whole body is one giant, throbbing penis!)

As I unfold my ongoing Mission of encouraging masturbatory excellence among human males of this planet, I'm also intrigued by the deeper meaning & significance of the male body, the erection, & p3 or pure penile pleasure. I carefully avoid using terms & images bound to any particular tradion, as male masturbatory pleasure really is universal. Yet some powerful images & practices that relate to your body & mine are emerging. For example, consider & place YOURSELF in one of the most ancient creation myths of the world:

Imagine YOU ARE the primordial phallic god, wandering in the forest primeval. YOU stroke your magnificent erect penis while YOU walk about enjoying the beautiful trees, the flowering plants & wild animals. YOU breathe in the rich oxygenated air, YOU feel relaxed, joyful while the ecstatic intensity of simply being alive, of existing, of LIFE ITSELF emanates from every cell of your body. It's natural & inevitable to realize that the vitality, the living vibrance, the rampant growth of all the living things around you is empowered by the potency of your phallus. Your phallus is the source of the seed-force of creation.

Realize that this is indeed the Phallic Forest: the sturdy trees all around are gigantic phalluses; all the plants & shrubs are like smaller phalluses reaching upward into the warm sunlight; even the grass is like a texture of tiny phalluses bristling with a texture of blissful intensity. Your presence here is what connects the sky above you & the ground below you in the unified potency of your being. Life flows through YOU because YOU ARE life itself . . .

(This may seem like a fanciful story unless--as I am doing now--YOU yourself are tending & caressing that remarkable organ of creative power rooted between your legs. If you're doing so, this story may make more sense . . .)

Remember, your body is not only a vehicle or inhabitation for your enjoyment. All of your ancestors live within you. You are the heir of that astounding ancestry going back to the beginning of life on Earth. Your feet are their feet, you hands are their hands, your face is their face, your penis this their penis.

Consider this--when you look deeply at yourself & what you are doing as you masturbate mindfully, your amazing human male body & your glorious penis are the product of millions of years of evolving life. In a real sense, your body is not only the "me" you imagine yourself to be. It is the body & the penis of all those human & pre-human males going back through the countless branches of the tree of your ancestors.

(Remember, as I've said before, I'm writing this with my penis as much as my brain & fingers dancing over the keys: I'm pausing frequently for tender squeezes to that silky pink mushroom head, the exquisite frenulum of the underside, the outrageous upper shaft, firmly pulling down my fuzzy balls while pulling upward along the shaft skin . . .)

You may already be aware that from the moment of your conception, as an ovum from your mother fertilized by a paternal spermatozoan, you developed in a manner that parallels the evolution of Life On Earth from the earliest single cells to the earliest creatures we would call "human," & beyond through your human ancestry. You began as a single fertilized cell that exploded into a ball of cellular divisions, eventually resembling a sort of curled worm, a fish, a tailed & 4-legged thing, covered with fur, then uncovered, becoming more & more like YOU!

Similarly, up to a certain point the embyonic you was not of a definite sex, until the XY chromosmal characteristic kicked in & your maleness began to emerge. Once the embryo became a fetus, your distinctly male qualities grew increasingly distinct. The earliest terrestial life reproduced by simple division, then various tactics & early forms of sexual reproduction. Eventually, many more complex organisms had both female & male forms, including numerous variations on the penis.

However YOUR human penis, the most recent & highly-developed kind of penis in the animal kingdom, is a most extraordinary organ. Among primates, that special branch of the mammals including the Great Apes, yours is by far the largest penis proportional to body-size. Credit those many thousand of male ancestors discovering the joys of the thing between their legs, playing with it, displaying it, & sharing the discoveries with fellow humans. A case can be made for the fact the human penis is partly an organ of display, & yet human females tend to be less impressed by penile dimensions than males. So, if so, it's at least partly intended for display to other males. Male fascination with the penis morphed it over the last 5-6 million years into that incredible thing between your legs!

Yours is indisputably the most magnificent, complex, highly-evolved penis in the animal kingdom, partly due to its size, structure, ultra-senitivity & complex capacities; also due to the fact it's directly connected with your 100-billion-cell human brain. Oh yes, all of your erotic pleasure, every sensation ACTUALLY occurs not between your legs, but between your ears. This is one of the reasons you can artfully arouse your entire body using mindful practices such as breathing, relaxing, vaariety, until your whole body is like one GIANT THROBBING PENIS!!!

Likewise don't forget--among those many thousands of male human ancestors, almost all of them loved to masturbate, & a great many probably longed to share the bliss with fellow human males. Yet in reality, how many of those ancestors did so freely, skillfully & without inhibition? Probably not many. Still, in a certain sense, you can make up for opportunities they may have missed.

NOW: As you continue practicing (hopefully right now you're stroking as you read this!) remind yourself, be grateful for that unbroken line of men & males going back so many millions of years. Do it for them also. In a certain sense, if you look deeply into yourself, they all live on within you. Enjoy yourself with special intensity for them & for yourself. Is there any real difference? They are you; you are them.

Perhaps in a certain sense, they actually FEEL your p3, that pure penile pleasure. At least it's nice to imagine that you are now feeling things they longed for in their masculine hearts . . .

It's time for a New Erotic Revolution in which you are empowered to claim as much physical ecstasy as you wish to enjoy. To experience all the pleasure you want, for its own sake, is your heritage as a human male. Accept the gifts you were born with. You are made of stardust, the heir of all your ancestors.

Why settle for anything less than exploring the limitless possibilities of your amazing human body?

Our civilization has absorbed & digested a great lie, that we humans exist apart from the natural world. In reality Nature is our Source, our context, our life itself. We have always lived in Paradise, in the Garden, except to the extent that we may have believed otherwise. Living too much in our minds & thoughts has created a lot of suffering & destructive behavior.

Do your part for the greater good as you reclaim your connection with Nature & all living things, your legacy of natural animal bliss: live in Paradise!

It's time to get over any cultural conditioning that may prevent you from a full surrender to your embodied potentials for bliss. You've got the power, literally in your own hands, to create more intense, high-quality pleasure for yourself than you have ever experienced before. This is not a substitute for other forms of sexuality, rather a practice with its own special virtues. Masturbating mindfully is always available to you, is totally safe, & has the power to accelerate your personal growth & conscious evolution.

You also have the power--if you choose--to share such pleasure with your fellow men, for mutual enjoyment, for the good of humanity, & for the benefit of the planet. For the sheer bliss of the sensations. For the wonderful male bonding. For its own sake.

As always when writing on this subject, I'm aroused at this very moment. In a real sense I write this blog with my penis as much as any other part of my body. Between intervals of tapping the keys & revising & editing, I stimulate that magnificent organ of manhood that surges upright from between my legs toward the space bar. Alternately I'm reading--stroking--writing--caressing my balls--editing--squeezing & tugging while pinching my nips--touching myself lightly all over--cutting & pasting--triggering my frenulum--revising yet again--tickling my inner thighs--& aware of YOU reading this . . .

I'm excited, not only in the erotic sense, also thrilled about the new MM4M DVDs in process, plus a couple of new related websites that will likewise be online soon. The sites are called EROTIC ENGINEERING (to focus on deliberate, methodical employment of male eroticism to alter consciousness) & MALE MYSTERY SCHOOL (to encourage Phallic Brotherhood & mythic empowerment in actual experience).

Men around the world hunger for a meaningful experience of our amazing animal bodies & to honor the penis that is so central to our masculine identity.

This is what has largely been missing from contemporary spirituality so far: the genuine fusion of the erotic with the sacred. The New Erotic Revolution is about nonduality, about seeing through false distinctions such as matter & spirit, body & soul, other & self. When we look deeply, in mindful awareness, we see that indeed all is One. One being in many forms; many forms of one being. We see a deeper unity to existence, yet without contradiction, this unity depends upon diversity & multiplicity. Everything is connected.

What feels so incredibly good to you, beyond words, is felt by everyone through this deeper connectedness. Your pleasure contributes to the total of happiness in existence. It's really all about balance in the broader perspective. There is plenty of suffering already. So a focus on pleasure is not unbalanced, rather a tonic for what ails humanity.

When we apply mindful awareness & conscious presence to touching ourselves & our fellow men we open a path toward peace. Our intent is reconciling human nature with Nature itself. In essence, this is the Great Work philosophers have spoken of for millennia.

My musings may seem lofty or idealistic to some, though if you're aroused & pleasuring yourself while you read this--as I am while I'm writing it--perhaps you'll know exactly what I mean.

from BRUCE

(Archive: August-November, 2008)